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Sunday, June 12, 2005

Opening Pandora's Box #12 

This story starts here.

“Hi. My name is Dr. Schook. How are you doing today?”

“I’m okay, I guess,” I answered. I held my arms up close around my breasts, feeling too vulnerable sitting in the thin paper gown I’d been provided with.

“You seem a little nervous. But don’t worry. I’ll use the smallest speculum we have, so this shouldn’t hurt. You may feel a little uncomfortable but it will be over quickly.”

This would be my first gynecological exam of my life, so the doctor took the time to explain what would happen and stressed the importance of having regular exams. I listened as attentively as I could, but was anxious to get the exam part of the visit over with.

Despite the queasy wariness in my gut, I followed the doctor’s instructions and placed a foot in each of the stirrups at the end of the table. I allowed my knees to fall together, to protect my vulnerable body as much as this position would allow.

“Okay, I’m going to need to you open your knees a little bit wider for me... Now move your bottom a little farther down to the edge of the table... A little farther... Don't worry, I won't let you fall off the edge.

“That’s it. Now you’re going to feel my fingers as I put the speculum in.”

The exam only lasted a few minutes. I felt intensely relieved once it was over.

Dr. Schook left me in the exam room to get dressed and went to the waiting room to call my parents into his office.

My mother recalls the doctor saying, “You have a very normal thirteen-year-old girl. She is perfectly healthy. Did you have any questions?”

"The doctor was very vague," my father later told me. "We didn't have the nerve to ask him [if you were still a virgin]. He put it in code and left it for us to figure out. Unless he had explicitly said, 'no,' we believed that you had [had sex]."

(to be continued)

Comments:
wow, did you go for this exam because your parents suspected you of having sex and wanted to see if it's true?
13yr is a young age. i guess nowadays it isn't.
how did you feel afterwards? i guess i'll wait to read on :)
 
Jax - I totally agree. My parent's definition of sex was very limited in scope.

Lorena - My mom only told me that it was time for my first "woman" exam; she didn't say why. I didn't find out about their alterior motive until afterwards. I was half-shocked/half-amused by their motive. The amusement came from an underlying feeling of being profoundly disturbed. If I had known their motive beforehand, however, I probably would have made more of a point of insuring that the doctor told them that my hymen *was* still intact. If that's all they cared about, this sure would have saved me a lot of grief with my parents in the years to come.
 
This is what makes me angry. Had your parents been honest with you, they would have gotten the information they wanted. Too many parents think they have to sneak around and be manipulative and pull stupid tricks that ultimately result in a loss of relationship.

-G
 
How awful. Hugs to the young sk8rn!
 
G - If my parents haven't learned anything from it, at least I hope I have. I don't have kids yet, but if I do have them, I hope they will benefit from what I've learned not to do.

Jenny - The young Sk8RN joyously accepts the hugs!

Tesco - Well, what? I'm going to assume you didn't read the previous comments, because I have a feeling your question was already answered. :-)
 
you can lose your hymen through ballet and horseback-riding, too.
 
yeah, um confidentiality?

sorry you had to go through it kiddo.
 
OMG!!!
that was mean! i come from a place where these things count even today and...but well it was mean. u cd hv lost it through sports.
 
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