Sunday, September 12, 2004
Have you ever wanted to be the opposite sex?
I attended a very entertaining birthday party this evening. The crowd was mixed, but by 8pm, all of the straight folk and the one child in attendance had left and we were down to the lesbians. The ensuing conversation was riveting. Somehow the group of eight was able to maintain interest through several subject shifts without fragmenting off into smaller groups much. The group chemistry was ON. Don't you love when that happens? I felt a sadness when the hour turned into my enemy and everyone disappeared out the front door along with their fading energy.
One of the topics that came up was "Have you ever wanted to be the opposite sex?" Now adays in the lesbian community, with the trend becoming for many to "transition" into being men, the question seemed more than just fantasy of the stature of "What would you do if you won the lottery?"
J: I don't know. In a way, I've always thought of myself as an adolescent boy. But I just can't imagine going to all that trouble to wind up with a somewhat useless tool or the need to wear a strap-on for the rest of my life.
R: As a nurse, I've seen some pretty strange looking genitalia on biological men who've had problems with penile implants.
L1: I have a friend who transitioned and although he has to wear a strap-on that he designed himself, he's very satisfied with his results.
J: Well, I guess if I had an undying need to be a man, the trouble would seem more worth it.
L2, an orange and white six-week old kitten, leaps from behind a paper bag and scurries past our legs.
M1: What if you could step into a machine and suddenly come out as a man without any of the trouble? Would you do it?
N (laughing): I'd have to see what my girlfriend would look like first.
M2: There are two men at my work who transitioned and I have mixed feelings about it. They were once butch lesbian lawyers, but now they're just men with all of that male privilege. I feel like I've lost something with them. I no longer feel like they're my buddies. The comraderie with them of being female lawyers in a profession dominated by men is gone.
C (gazing off dreamily into the distance): I'd do it. Well, at least for six months. I'd kind of like to know what it's like to live in a man's shoes, experience the privileges men have for a few months.
Would you?
One of the topics that came up was "Have you ever wanted to be the opposite sex?" Now adays in the lesbian community, with the trend becoming for many to "transition" into being men, the question seemed more than just fantasy of the stature of "What would you do if you won the lottery?"
J: I don't know. In a way, I've always thought of myself as an adolescent boy. But I just can't imagine going to all that trouble to wind up with a somewhat useless tool or the need to wear a strap-on for the rest of my life.
R: As a nurse, I've seen some pretty strange looking genitalia on biological men who've had problems with penile implants.
L1: I have a friend who transitioned and although he has to wear a strap-on that he designed himself, he's very satisfied with his results.
J: Well, I guess if I had an undying need to be a man, the trouble would seem more worth it.
L2, an orange and white six-week old kitten, leaps from behind a paper bag and scurries past our legs.
M1: What if you could step into a machine and suddenly come out as a man without any of the trouble? Would you do it?
N (laughing): I'd have to see what my girlfriend would look like first.
M2: There are two men at my work who transitioned and I have mixed feelings about it. They were once butch lesbian lawyers, but now they're just men with all of that male privilege. I feel like I've lost something with them. I no longer feel like they're my buddies. The comraderie with them of being female lawyers in a profession dominated by men is gone.
C (gazing off dreamily into the distance): I'd do it. Well, at least for six months. I'd kind of like to know what it's like to live in a man's shoes, experience the privileges men have for a few months.
Would you?
Comments:
Whoops, not sure if I accidentally deleted my comment so I'll just write it again. The idea of getting "down to the lesbians" is a hilarious concept. I can identify with not wanting to end the energy of good parties, of hot discussions. I'm glad you articulated that concept! I thought about it recently while at a party at my brother's. I felt like the chemistry was so good that we should immediately live together in a commune! Back to topic: I don't want to be a guy but I like dating male ID'ed dykes/butches. Sometimes I question why I don't date bio men, but I am so much more comfortable with lesbian/trans relationships. Complicated issues! I like C's idea of being a man for six months. Unfortunately it's not easily reversible. How interesting life would be if it was!
I would. Then I wouldn't be chubby, I'd be "all man" and I could have a beard when I get a zit. The clothes are more practical. Of course, that would make my love life suck...lesbians don't like to date men. So, I would have to say, no to the first question and "not a problem" to any further questions.
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